It can be difficult to maintain a happy and healthy marriage in today’s society. It almost seems as though people are more focused on infidelity than ever before, and concern about the issue has created panic in many a relationship. The important thing to remember is that healthy, happy relationships are far less likely to see one spouse cheating on the other than unhappy relationships. That means that if you want to ensure your spouse doesn’t cheat, you’ll have to focus on creating the kind of relationship that discourages that behavior. Let’s take a look at what that means, and what you can do.
Communicate, Communicate & Communicate
One of the most important aspects of any relationships, romantic or otherwise, is communication. Maintain open lines of communication throughout your marriage, even when it is difficult. Open discussions with your spouse about what the consequences for cheating would be – would the relationship be over? Would it mean spending the next two years in therapy? These are questions that need to be answered. Additionally, be open to the concerns of your spouse once they bring them to your attention. Secrets and anxiety are poison to healthy relationships, so do your best to keep them out of the mix.
Maintain the Passion
One of the many issues that can lead to a spouse cheating is the monotony long term relationships can face. Sometimes we tend to take our spouses for granted, for example, and assume that they know how much we adore them and appreciate their actions. That’s not always the case, however, and it is important that you understand that. Keep the passion in your relationship! Keep up with date nights and time alone. Remember to express your feelings – don’t assume your spouse will just “get it”.
Grow Together
Something that many people fail to take into consideration when marrying is that people change over the years. Sometimes, they change a lot. This can either spell disaster for your relationship, or it can be a chance for bonding. This is part of the whole “communication is important” deal. Be honest with your spouse about the things you see changing. Sometimes growing together can be the best option, and can lead to incredibly strong relationships.
Be Confident
No matter how long you have been married, you are still your own person. It’s okay to have a life outside of your marriage. Have confidence in yourself and in your relationship, and live your life accordingly. Not only will this most likely appeal to your partner, but it will also help you live a healthier and happier life in the long run.
Remember that cheating is rarely just about sex. In fact, many times infidelity stems from a breakdown in open communication and emotional intimacy. Finding ways to ensure that your relationship is never lacking in either is a great first step towards preventing cheating. If something does happen, by the way, remember that it is not your fault. Many people blame themselves for their spouse’s bad behavior – don’t let the guilt drag you down.